Do you believe that being selfish during a time of spiritual growth is wrong? I’ll be the first to admit that, as a child, I believed selfishness was completely and utterly disgusting. But, hey – my six year old mind has evolved quite a bit over the years (I promise). Sometimes, I like to journey into those hard conversations with my own self. And, today – I wanted to dive into the subject of selfishness. More so, I wanted to talk about how selfishness can be used through our own spiritual growth process. So? Let’s get to it.
I believe that there are two types of selfishness, and we need to understand the difference between them. There is the selfishness that is rooted in our ego, in our mind, and in our own disguises of fear. And, we all have moments of selfishness that come out – even when we think we are being selfless. Nevertheless, selfishness is always seen as a negative commodity because the world claims that all forms of selfishness are rooted out of the self-absorbed idea of negativity and fear.
However, I also would like to believe that there is a healthy version of selfishness that is rooted in character, truth, and honor. And, in our choice to practice that type of selfishness, we can curate a healthy relationship with our reality that initiates positive boundaries and positive impact upon our own selves and those we interact with.
So? Here are my top ten reasons why we should practice selfishness during moments of spiritual growth to curate a healthy relationship with our reality through positivity, truth, and respect.
When we’re in a vulnerable place of spiritual growth, every aspect of whom we are is sensitive. Words people say, crazy and hectic environments with heightened amounts of energy, and situations that don’t feel good may influence us in a large way. It can be so valuable for us to choose to surround our own energy with people, places, and situations that feel good and healthy for us during open moments of growth. You may even discover that a “selfishness practice” may help you curate proper boundaries in your own life moving forward.
When we are working with our own energy, our bodies are in the process of cleansing and detoxifying old energy from our past that does not serve us any longer. Due to this, it can be so powerful to surround ourselves with what we need rather than what our minds desire, even if it’s just a simple choice to spend more time in nature. This could mean that we need to say no to a friend that we love or it could mean that we say yes to having a healing with someone, even if we don’t have a ton of money in our bank account.
Is there something you’re seeking to find during a moment of spiritual growth? Are you awakening to your own soul? When our human self is awakening to a part of our soul, it can be really easy to find distractions that stop us from moving forward. Our minds, most times, like to seek and create distractions for us because it can help us feel safe. However, learning to create and initiate personal boundaries with ourselves can be so important. Be selfish with your time, with your energy, and with the direction your thoughts go. It can make a world of differences as you navigate the spiritual growth you are creating for your own self.
A lot of times, our human mind teaches us that we need to do what the world suggests because that’s what is right. But, you are worthy of so much more than what the world says of you. And, it can be so beneficial for you to recognize that, so you can choose to walk forward with confidence, self-esteem, and choice. Choose to honor yourself above all else, and to never sway from your truth and character – even in the harshest of environments. Allow your soul to be selfish. You are worthy of all of your deepest desires and your deepest needs.
This seems rather simple, right? I believe that, a lot of times, we feel like we need to give back to our friends, our family, and to the world. But, that puts a lot of pressure on our hearts and our minds. And, the truth is – you do not owe anyone or anything a single thing. You are in charge of your energy, your gifts, and your time. All you have to do is live in this world, flow with your reality, and choose what works for you. If someone claims that you owe them something just because you’re a breathing living human, it’s just not true!
People usually use the word “selfish” to describe someone’s actions because they have been hurt by this person. However, we can utilize selfishness in a positive way. If we are choosing to honor our hearts, to follow our path, and to remain true to ourselves, then is selfishness really bad? I’d like to think not. Rather, selfishness is us choosing to value and respect our own energy and our own hearts. And, our hearts and our energy are worthy of every need that our soul has.
Have you ever felt like you needed to do something or be someone because of a past experience? It can be super challenging to move forward with our own spiritual awakening process when things from our past begin to pull on our own energy. Any beliefs, thoughts, and moments of trauma that need to be released require an open lane of willingness and selfishness. How can you release things, if you’re holding onto them for others? Maybe, you feel resistant to awakening because you know others may not like the “new you.”
When we’re in a state of spiritual growth, it can be so beneficial for us to practice selfishness. It is more than safe for us to release people, beliefs, and experiences from our reality. Our hearts, always, call for us to be our pure and authentic selves.
Has someone judged you for being authentic? Maybe they didn’t like the way you dressed or the way you talked. As humans, we all make honest evaluations of each other in our reality – it’s just how it all works. But, sometimes, those evaluations turn into judgement. And, that judgement can create walls and perimeters of limitation that stop us from moving forward. If your mother doesn’t like when you have short hair, you may choose to keep it long for her approval. If your dad doesn’t like your job, you might go into the corporate world to earn his love.
When we choose to follow the judgements and evaluations of others, we are being selfish because we are choosing their approval. Choose to be selfish, differently. Make the choice to be selfish through honoring yourself and your character. Be authentic, always, even if it disappoints those that you love and look up to.
Has someone every told you that it’s selfish for you to give to yourself? However, when you give to another, it’s selfless. It seems to be an odd phenomenon, if you’d ask me. Whether it’s you or another, choose to give. You have the power to give to yourself, in times of need and in times of joy, and you can create a powerful human experience through this simple act. It is never wrong to give to your heart. You have needs that your soul and heart desire, so give to yourself. You deserve it!
When you choose to value yourself, your energy is going to begin to raise to a new level – a new vibration. And, this is going to prepare you to fulfill your purpose with large amounts of new energy and vibrancy. The Universe will, always, match to you what you are. In other words, the Universe is a mirror. When we allow ourselves to raise in vibration, our energy begins to change and the Universe will begin to bring to us what we are.
Allow yourself to say no, to surround yourself with what you need, and to give to yourself at all costs. And, allow yourself to create those internal boundaries of selfishness, so you can soar beyond all else.
Well, there you have it! My top ten reasons why you should be selfish during moments of spiritual growth. And, hey – maybe you being positively “selfish” isn’t being selfish at all…despite what the world says and claims.
You’re doing awesome, incredible, and you can achieve all of your wildest dreams. Value yourselves with honor, love, and respect. And, don’t forget to give Dimensional Wanders a follow on instagram and facebook for more healing tips, tools, and intuitive guidance!
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